"Conquest. He was out to make a conquest. Didn't care what harm was done, just as long as he won the prize. Conquest. She was just another conquest. Didn't care whose heart was broke. Love to him was a joke 'til he looked into her eyes. And then in the strange way things happen. The roles were reversed from that day. The hunted became the huntress; the hunter became the prey."
This song by The White Stripes is describing a man's quest after a woman. But it is not talking about the power the man has over the woman or even of overcoming her, it is talking about when the woman becomes the powerful one-- "the roles were revered from that day. They hunted became to huntress; the hunter became the prey."
Why is sex is an important right of passage? What does sex prove?
In class we brained stormed about what sex means and made the connection between conquest and and sex. I definitely thought of ways men go after women in some of these terms before, but not really in this depth. I thought it was a really great exercise that led nicely into our talk about the "History of the Conquest of Spain" as well as "Coquette."
We were asked to reflect on the ways in which sex is an important right of passage and of the things that sex proves. In a lot of ways, because sex is like conquest, it confirms that one is successful and victorious. Also, when men are pursing women it proves that they are indeed men and the superior sex. Sex, in a lot of ways, reconfirms patriarchy.
In class we brained stormed about what sex means and made the connection between conquest and and sex. I definitely thought of ways men go after women in some of these terms before, but not really in this depth. I thought it was a really great exercise that led nicely into our talk about the "History of the Conquest of Spain" as well as "Coquette."
We were asked to reflect on the ways in which sex is an important right of passage and of the things that sex proves. In a lot of ways, because sex is like conquest, it confirms that one is successful and victorious. Also, when men are pursing women it proves that they are indeed men and the superior sex. Sex, in a lot of ways, reconfirms patriarchy.
Film: Wrestling with Manhood. why can we not break it? and other thoughts
Ed McMan in the film said that the WWE was entertainment that aimed to "evoke some sort of emotion" and that it was a "soap opera for guys". After watching parts of the documentary, it is clear that the WWE, violence and all the surrounding ideas, are evoking a feeling in men and young boys. Further, it is confirming the preconceived notion that men and boys must be tough and act out in ways that reinforce their manhood. Also, women are portrayed as sexual beings and an object of reward for men in wresting, often being humiliated in front of the audience as part of entertainment, letting the audience know that it's ok to treat women in such ways.
A couple of the issues that the film also brought up really stood out to me--that fear and respect go hand-in-hand and that physically domination and mental/emotional humiliation is connected with manhood. In class, Suzanne asked "Why can we not break it?" I think it's clear, that because such belief systems are constantly reinforced in through television, media or other outlets, there will always be this cycle. Society is constantly militarily, politically, economically and socially. If we are always finding a medium to operate these ideologies in, they will always be around until we make the collective, conscious choice to change it.
The documentary also touched on issues of heterosexuality and the ways in which the entertainment business is always trying to find ways to both compensate for homosexuality and ratify heteronormality at the expense of glbtq individuals. The narrator of the film commented on how homosexuality is discouraged and the ways in which the industry tries to link heterosexuality to toughness, violence, lack of emotion and strength. To be a man, you must also be straight. There is no room for queerness.
As a woman and lesbian, I have dealt with conflict of identity. I have a style which I feel most comfortable and most like my self in. However, my boyish style does not reflect my girly personality. I love my hair and makeup and girl stuff. I have far more girl friends that guy friends. I have a total soft spot for romantic comedy and cheesy love songs. I am extremely sensitive and I have a strong emotional response to everything. There are times, even in my family, where those around me assume that my boyish look also means I have a boyish personality. People assume I should be tough, emotionless, and run with the guys. I couldn't be more of the opposite. Most of my friends and family are always telling me: "Sheesh Sarah, you're such a girl."
It is very frustrating, to me, when anyone assumes one's personality or attitude determines their gender and sexuality or vice versa. This is not the case for me, and not the case for most. But, again, with the persistent societal back people learn such ignorance and outwardly expression of agreement, it is going to be hard to change such a cultural mindset.
A couple of the issues that the film also brought up really stood out to me--that fear and respect go hand-in-hand and that physically domination and mental/emotional humiliation is connected with manhood. In class, Suzanne asked "Why can we not break it?" I think it's clear, that because such belief systems are constantly reinforced in through television, media or other outlets, there will always be this cycle. Society is constantly militarily, politically, economically and socially. If we are always finding a medium to operate these ideologies in, they will always be around until we make the collective, conscious choice to change it.
The documentary also touched on issues of heterosexuality and the ways in which the entertainment business is always trying to find ways to both compensate for homosexuality and ratify heteronormality at the expense of glbtq individuals. The narrator of the film commented on how homosexuality is discouraged and the ways in which the industry tries to link heterosexuality to toughness, violence, lack of emotion and strength. To be a man, you must also be straight. There is no room for queerness.
As a woman and lesbian, I have dealt with conflict of identity. I have a style which I feel most comfortable and most like my self in. However, my boyish style does not reflect my girly personality. I love my hair and makeup and girl stuff. I have far more girl friends that guy friends. I have a total soft spot for romantic comedy and cheesy love songs. I am extremely sensitive and I have a strong emotional response to everything. There are times, even in my family, where those around me assume that my boyish look also means I have a boyish personality. People assume I should be tough, emotionless, and run with the guys. I couldn't be more of the opposite. Most of my friends and family are always telling me: "Sheesh Sarah, you're such a girl."
It is very frustrating, to me, when anyone assumes one's personality or attitude determines their gender and sexuality or vice versa. This is not the case for me, and not the case for most. But, again, with the persistent societal back people learn such ignorance and outwardly expression of agreement, it is going to be hard to change such a cultural mindset.
Film: The Patriot. Making men of boys
The clip we watched in class was pretty brutal. Blood, violence, hatred, disconcert, revenge, sacrifice. My heart, just by watching, ached at the sight of two young boys having to pick up weapons and kill. They were fearful, but obeying. Just like in the documentary on the WWE, fear is such a force in becoming and the authorize of manhood. Those boys were so scared and vulnerable, but they became men according in the eyes of society when they lifted the gun and killed.
Rights of passage.. or initiation into "manhood" are common in every society across the world. And the National Geographic's series "Taboo" examines different societal rights of passage and the ways in which initiation into manhood is an "abrupt or violent end to immaturity" Also, more interestingly, it talks about the way in which society poses membership on the body. The link between sexuality, violence, and manhood to the body is explored in the following clip where a young man is circumcised by another member of his clan and left in the woods alone in order to become a member of this society:
The clip we watched in class was pretty brutal. Blood, violence, hatred, disconcert, revenge, sacrifice. My heart, just by watching, ached at the sight of two young boys having to pick up weapons and kill. They were fearful, but obeying. Just like in the documentary on the WWE, fear is such a force in becoming and the authorize of manhood. Those boys were so scared and vulnerable, but they became men according in the eyes of society when they lifted the gun and killed.
Rights of passage.. or initiation into "manhood" are common in every society across the world. And the National Geographic's series "Taboo" examines different societal rights of passage and the ways in which initiation into manhood is an "abrupt or violent end to immaturity" Also, more interestingly, it talks about the way in which society poses membership on the body. The link between sexuality, violence, and manhood to the body is explored in the following clip where a young man is circumcised by another member of his clan and left in the woods alone in order to become a member of this society:
Woman begins by resisting a man's advances and ends by blocking his retreat. ~Oscar Wilde